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Here, it's from a 'black' site. So I doubt it's anti-black propaganda.

http://www.preciousonline.co.uk/repo...race_love.html

Mixed Race Love

By Ekua Intsiful

Britain has the highest number of mixed race couples in the world. While the issue of mixed race couples seems outdated and somewhat non-progressive in light of the perceived freedom and liberation of our modern age, the fact remains that for some it is as relevant today as it was 40 years ago. It is a subject about which many people have very strong opinions. There are those who regard it as unequivocally wrong, while others would not be a part of a mixed race relationship, but insist that everyone should have the right to choose. The more liberal among us hold the romantic view that love is blind - it does not see colour. Who a person falls for is dictated by mutual attraction and not by race.

A study by Professor Richard Berthoud of The National Institute for Social and Economic Research has this year revealed that nine out of ten black males aged twenty in Britain who are in a domestic relationship are with non-black women. This equates to a huge majority of ninety per cent and marks Britain as having the largest number of mixed race couples in the world. As a black female this spells out a very bleak future for myself or for any black woman who has pinned her romantic hopes on finding the black man of her dreams to spend the rest of her life with. Under the circumstances, a black woman would be lucky to find a black man at all, let alone the man of her dreams. This statistic signals trouble not only for black relationships, but for the black family unit which is already under strain from the stresses of single parenting. The black community has the highest incidence of one parent families of any cultural or ethnic group. Where does this statistic leave the black woman and the black family?

We must not forget that while the black man is dating the white woman in droves, the incidence of black women dating white men is also on the increase. This statistic however is not nearly as high - at present it stands at one in ten. In comparison with black males this seems like a tiny proportion, but in fact the number of black women dating non-black men has risen dramatically in recent years. The black woman, who in the past had nearly always opted for a partner of the same race, appears to be following in the footsteps of the black male who since the dawn of integration has had a strong desire for the white woman.

The reality is that while most black men are choosing to date non-black women, black women are being left on the relationship scrap heap. For many black women dating outside of her race is a necessity rather than a preference. In the present climate of inter-racial dating the only way many black women are able to realise the natural and necessary need for a relationship is to consider other races as perspective partners. This of course does not apply to all relationships in which black women are dating non-black men. There are those who through personal preference or circumstance find themselves dating outside of their race. The fact is however that with so many black males selecting non-black women as partners, there simply are not enough available black men for black women. Are we as black females destined to a life of Jerry Springer type relationships in which we find ourselves in constant battles with one another over the same man?

As a black woman I want to know what it is that makes the black man choose the white woman over his own black female? Professor Berthoud puts it down to a question of numbers saying 'there are simply more white women than those of Caribbean descent to choose from'.

This in my opinion does not provide an adequate answer. Indeed black people are a minority in British society, but this does not explain the black man's seemingly insatiable appetite for any and every woman that is not black. Other minority groups manage to date predominantly within their own race and even black women who seem to be being abandoned by their black males are still choosing to date a black man rather than one of another race.

Debates of this nature usually find black men who date white or non-black women occupying two camps. There are those who say that their choice of partner has nothing to do with race. They fall in love with the person and not with the skin colour. This I can not argue with. As a believer in romance and love that conquers all, it would go against all my fairy tale images of true love to dispute this claim.

The other camp chooses to point the finger of blame at the black woman. Saying that we are unable to adhere to the needs of the black man. Seeing negativity in our strength, independence and resourcefulness they dismiss us as too hard and accuse us of an inability to support and nurture our men. To these I say they should look at themselves before looking at others. Any black man who refuses to date a black woman simply because of her race has a problem not only with himself, but with accepting who he is.