Moments that have shaped your life

jgraham · 21st July 2008, 11:12

Pretty much all posters on here will have a moment or moments that have had a massive impact on their life and how they live it. I know this is a far cry from some of the other threads knocking about as its a bit on the serious side, but i thought it'd be cool to hear some fellow posters life experiences. It generally gives you a better idea of the poster.

My biggest experience to date (i'm 24) has to have been my ex girlfiend losing our baby, subsequently the relationship broke down and now we don't see each other. It give me a chance to take a step back and see what was imprortant in life etc and now I think I value the little things in life far more than i ever did.

So does anyone else wish to share any?

Snake Doctor · 21st July 2008, 11:20

Sorry to hear you had to go through that mate...

Decotron · 21st July 2008, 11:24

Wow thats a big one mate especially at 24 but at any age really. Judging by your posts here you seem to have come through it so well done on that.
.......Nods Cap........

jgraham · 21st July 2008, 11:47

Cheers, it was a harsh time but life's all about picking yourself up and moving on bigger and better i guess!

Eyepopper · 21st July 2008, 11:54

I went through a really really shitty time just over 3 years ago. I wont go into gorey details but basically everything my life had been about for the preceding ten years fell apart and I was left with absolutely nothing.

I've since rebuilt and am now a stronger person than I was before. (If a little more perverted!)

rimaldo · 21st July 2008, 11:55

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Originally Posted by Eyepopper

I went through a really really shitty time just over 3 years ago. I wont go into gorey details but basically everything my life had been about for the preceding ten years fell apart and I was left with absolutely nothing.

I've since rebuilt and am now a stronger person than I was before. (If a little more perverted!)

you are now much happier as a woman though yeah?

Eyepopper · 21st July 2008, 11:56

yes... and makeup in public isnt so much of a problem for me any longer!

Decotron · 21st July 2008, 11:56

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Originally Posted by rimaldo

you are now much happier as a woman though yeah?

always the man to lighten the moment

jgraham · 21st July 2008, 11:57

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Originally Posted by Eyepopper

I went through a really really shitty time just over 3 years ago. I wont go into gorey details but basically everything my life had been about for the preceding ten years fell apart and I was left with absolutely nothing.

I've since rebuilt and am now a stronger person than I was before. (If a little more perverted!)

I think that part is key, obviously its best not to have to go through the bad times but they more often than not can improve you as a person!

rimaldo · 21st July 2008, 11:57

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Originally Posted by Eyepopper

yes... and makeup in public isnt so much of a problem for me any longer!

how i envy you.

Eyepopper · 21st July 2008, 11:58

100%.... sounds very corny but you have to view the shit that life throws at you (and it throws it at EVERYONE at some point) as a challenge... something to get past and learn from.

If you cant do that in my book there's only one alternative.

ninja_alan · 21st July 2008, 14:15

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Originally Posted by rimaldo

you are now much happier as a woman though yeah?

CapeTownRed · 21st July 2008, 14:35

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Originally Posted by Eyepopper

100%.... sounds very corny but you have to view the shit that life throws at you (and it throws it at EVERYONE at some point) as a challenge... something to get past and learn from.

If you cant do that in my book there's only one alternative.

drink?

rimaldo · 21st July 2008, 14:35

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Originally Posted by Eyepopper

100%.... sounds very corny but you have to view the shit that life throws at you (and it throws it at EVERYONE at some point) as a challenge... something to get past and learn from.

If you cant do that in my book there's only one alternative.

we know pop, become a woman. we all respect and admire you for it.

Church o Choccy · 21st July 2008, 14:47

My old man passing when I was eleven was a pretty big one. My mum was disabled so I essentially became an adult then. Still wouldn't let me drive or vote or anything though, the fuckers.

Personally I reckon one of the biggest things in my life ever was meeting my girlfriend, everything seemed ok from then on in, even when it's been absolutely shit.

KeyserSoze · 21st July 2008, 14:58

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Originally Posted by rimaldo

you are now much happier as a woman though yeah?

Red Dreams · 21st July 2008, 15:15

losing my parents within a couple of years of each other....this was more than 12 years ago...it took a long time for me to get over that....

Raven_Blade · 21st July 2008, 17:22

Whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger.

Eyepopper · 21st July 2008, 17:27

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Originally Posted by CapeTownRed

drink?

nope... I dont really want to go into it but lets just say I ended up with a gun in my mouth and flipped a coin.

Chorley1974 · 21st July 2008, 18:47

My brother's death when I was 18, supposed to be having the time of your life at that age. It gave me a new perspective, if I can go through that I can go through anything.

Dr. Dwayne · 21st July 2008, 18:49

United treble 1999.

Inspired me to go back to University and finish my degree.

GIT Z RED · 21st July 2008, 20:31

i have always wanted to do physio since I was Kid so I asked a teacher about it at school he told me that I would never make it I hadnt got what it takes i felt like crap after this and basically didnt get the points in the leaving. I dicided not to let this prick bring me down and went to College in England to get my degree Im back in Ireland the last few years and working in a private sports clinic the story gets better last week i got a new patient list and who was on my list for physio only the teacher who had put me down all them years ago. Priceless.

Dr. Dwayne · 21st July 2008, 20:34

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Originally Posted by GIT Z RED

i have always wanted to do physio since I was Kid so I asked a teacher about it at school he told me that I would never make it I hadnt got what it takes i felt like crap after this and basically didnt get the points in the leaving. I dicided not to let this prick bring me down and went to College in England to get my degree Im back in Ireland the last few years and working in a private sports clinic the story gets better last week i got a new patient list and who was on my list for physio only the teacher who had put me down all them years ago. Priceless.

make him feel the pain and tell him he must suffer if he wants to get better.

then make sure to get some liquid heat or other like substance on his balls, accidentally, like.

BillyBob · 22nd July 2008, 11:07

Respect, JGraham, for trying to start a serious thread. I have never fully recovered from my first wife's suicide, 30 odd years ago. She had anorexia before anyone had even given the disorder a name. I believe from what I've learned about anorexia since then that my psychological behaviour towards her contributed significantly to her misery, although many other people also played a big part, including her father and some of her friends who led her badly astray. Regardless of them though, I can only carry my own guilt.

jgraham · 22nd July 2008, 11:18

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Originally Posted by BillyBob

Respect, JGraham, for trying to start a serious thread. I have never fully recovered from my first wife's suicide, 30 odd years ago. She had anorexia before anyone had even given the disorder a name. I believe from what I've learned about anorexia since then that my psychological behaviour towards her contributed significantly to her misery, although many other people also played a big part, including her father and some of her friends who led her badly astray. Regardless of them though, I can only carry my own guilt.

Much respect for sharing that one, can't even begin to imagine how hard that must be to go through.

Sometimes threads like this give you a better insight into who actually posts on here, theres a lot of front and falseness by most - myself included but its refreshing sometimes to see people for who they actually are.

BillyBob · 22nd July 2008, 11:30

Thanks, jg. You're right - there are some amazing characters on the caf; some people are such quality writers/humorists I can't help wondering if they are professionals in the "real" world. And there is some heavy educational background going round, too - classicists, historians, scientists, engineers. I wasn't quite expecting all this when I signed up. Love 'em all.

SmashedHombre · 22nd July 2008, 11:34

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Originally Posted by BillyBob

Respect, JGraham, for trying to start a serious thread. I have never fully recovered from my first wife's suicide, 30 odd years ago. She had anorexia before anyone had even given the disorder a name. I believe from what I've learned about anorexia since then that my psychological behaviour towards her contributed significantly to her misery, although many other people also played a big part, including her father and some of her friends who led her badly astray. Regardless of them though, I can only carry my own guilt.

Christ mate thats horrible, really sorry to hear that.

Seeing as how we are all giving out rather personal stories, I will share. When I was younger I had an abusive father, constantly drunk or high he used to take pleasure in tormenting me. My mum pretty much rescued me from him which is the bravest thing anyone has ever done for me. Anyway at the age of 5 I watched him OD, luckily he survived but seeing him in hospital and knowing that sooner or later he is going to do it again and next time he probably wont be so lucky has always had me terrified and has pretty much influenced my view on drugs. Its also made me never want to be a father and is the reason I give £30 per month to NSPCC. Hes still a fuck up and likes to send me abusive phonecalls and voicemails telling me how I'm never going to succeed at life but to be frank I've learned to ignore it because I have a great step dad who took me in and a reasonably successful job.

That and destroying my ankle and ending my skating sponsorship. Actually that was probably worse because I broke my deck as well and that was an expensive deck

rimaldo · 22nd July 2008, 11:39

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Originally Posted by BillyBob

Thanks, jg. You're right - there are some amazing characters on the caf; some people are such quality writers/humorists I can't help wondering if they are professionals in the "real" world. And there is some heavy educational background going round, too - classicists, historians, scientists, engineers. I wasn't quite expecting all this when I signed up. Love 'em all.

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Christ mate thats horrible, really sorry to hear that.

Seeing as how we are all giving out rather personal stories, I will share. When I was younger I had an abusive father, constantly drunk or high he used to take pleasure in tormenting me. My mum pretty much rescued me from him which is the bravest thing anyone has ever done for me. Anyway at the age of 5 I watched him OD, luckily he survived but seeing him in hospital and knowing that sooner or later he is going to do it again and next time he probably wont be so lucky has always had me terrified and has pretty much influenced my view on drugs. Its also made me never want to be a father and is the reason I give £30 per month to NSPCC. Hes still a fuck up and likes to send me abusive phonecalls and voicemails telling me how I'm never going to succeed at life but to be frank I've learned to ignore it because I have a great step dad who took me in and a reasonably successful job.

That and destroying my ankle and ending my skating sponsorship. Actually that was probably worse because I broke my deck as well and that was an expensive deck

fuck me boys, you have both been through a hell of a lot. my biggest problem to date was which pair of socks to put on this morning. my respect to you both from coming out the other side of it all. your respect is a little begrudging though smashed. just kidding.

jgraham · 22nd July 2008, 12:34

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Originally Posted by SmashedHombre

Christ mate thats horrible, really sorry to hear that.

Seeing as how we are all giving out rather personal stories, I will share. When I was younger I had an abusive father, constantly drunk or high he used to take pleasure in tormenting me. My mum pretty much rescued me from him which is the bravest thing anyone has ever done for me. Anyway at the age of 5 I watched him OD, luckily he survived but seeing him in hospital and knowing that sooner or later he is going to do it again and next time he probably wont be so lucky has always had me terrified and has pretty much influenced my view on drugs. Its also made me never want to be a father and is the reason I give £30 per month to NSPCC. Hes still a fuck up and likes to send me abusive phonecalls and voicemails telling me how I'm never going to succeed at life but to be frank I've learned to ignore it because I have a great step dad who took me in and a reasonably successful job.

That and destroying my ankle and ending my skating sponsorship. Actually that was probably worse because I broke my deck as well and that was an expensive deck

That's obviously had a massive bearing on your life, especially with the not wanting to be a father. Credit to you for the money to charity, its good to see your helping others in similar circumstances.

How did you mess your ankle up?

SmashedHombre · 22nd July 2008, 12:55

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jgraham Reserve Team Player Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Usually in work looking busy, when actually patrolling the caf looking for threads to invade. Posts: 4,196	Moments that have shaped your life Pretty much all posters on here will have a moment or moments that have had a massive impact on their life and how they live it. I know this is a far cry from some of the other threads knocking about as its a bit on the serious side, but i thought it'd be cool to hear some fellow posters life experiences. It generally gives you a better idea of the poster. My biggest experience to date (i'm 24) has to have been my ex girlfiend losing our baby, subsequently the relationship broke down and now we don't see each other. It give me a chance to take a step back and see what was imprortant in life etc and now I think I value the little things in life far more than i ever did. So does anyone else wish to share any?

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Snake Doctor Reserve Team Player Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Switzerland Posts: 1,671	Sorry to hear you had to go through that mate...

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Decotron Reserve Team Player Join Date: May 2007 Location: So near I can smell it..... Posts: 2,941	Wow thats a big one mate especially at 24 but at any age really. Judging by your posts here you seem to have come through it so well done on that. .......Nods Cap........

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jgraham Reserve Team Player Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Usually in work looking busy, when actually patrolling the caf looking for threads to invade. Posts: 4,196	Cheers, it was a harsh time but life's all about picking yourself up and moving on bigger and better i guess!

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Eyepopper First Team Regular Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Lowering the Tone since 2006 Posts: 16,842	I went through a really really shitty time just over 3 years ago. I wont go into gorey details but basically everything my life had been about for the preceding ten years fell apart and I was left with absolutely nothing. I've since rebuilt and am now a stronger person than I was before. (If a little more perverted!)

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Eyepopper First Team Regular Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Lowering the Tone since 2006 Posts: 16,842	yes... and makeup in public isnt so much of a problem for me any longer!

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Eyepopper First Team Regular Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Lowering the Tone since 2006 Posts: 16,842	100%.... sounds very corny but you have to view the shit that life throws at you (and it throws it at EVERYONE at some point) as a challenge... something to get past and learn from. If you cant do that in my book there's only one alternative.

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Church o Choccy Reserve Team Player Join Date: Jul 2005 Location: travelling the world Posts: 634	My old man passing when I was eleven was a pretty big one. My mum was disabled so I essentially became an adult then. Still wouldn't let me drive or vote or anything though, the fuckers. Personally I reckon one of the biggest things in my life ever was meeting my girlfriend, everything seemed ok from then on in, even when it's been absolutely shit.

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Red Dreams First Team Regular Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Thunder Road to Old Trafford Posts: 10,848	losing my parents within a couple of years of each other....this was more than 12 years ago...it took a long time for me to get over that....

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Raven_Blade Attention Whoring Common Crow Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: In Man Utd's Defence. Posts: 18,219	Whatever doesnt kill you makes you stronger.

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Chorley1974 Lady Ole Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 3,207	My brother's death when I was 18, supposed to be having the time of your life at that age. It gave me a new perspective, if I can go through that I can go through anything.

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Dr. Dwayne self confessed womens pantie wearer Join Date: May 2006 Location: form is emptiness, emptiness is form. Posts: 14,284	United treble 1999. Inspired me to go back to University and finish my degree.

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GIT Z RED Reserve Team Player Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: dublin Posts: 1,341	i have always wanted to do physio since I was Kid so I asked a teacher about it at school he told me that I would never make it I hadnt got what it takes i felt like crap after this and basically didnt get the points in the leaving. I dicided not to let this prick bring me down and went to College in England to get my degree Im back in Ireland the last few years and working in a private sports clinic the story gets better last week i got a new patient list and who was on my list for physio only the teacher who had put me down all them years ago. Priceless.

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BillyBob Reserve Team Player Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Singapore Posts: 511	Respect, JGraham, for trying to start a serious thread. I have never fully recovered from my first wife's suicide, 30 odd years ago. She had anorexia before anyone had even given the disorder a name. I believe from what I've learned about anorexia since then that my psychological behaviour towards her contributed significantly to her misery, although many other people also played a big part, including her father and some of her friends who led her badly astray. Regardless of them though, I can only carry my own guilt.

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BillyBob Reserve Team Player Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Singapore Posts: 511	Thanks, jg. You're right - there are some amazing characters on the caf; some people are such quality writers/humorists I can't help wondering if they are professionals in the "real" world. And there is some heavy educational background going round, too - classicists, historians, scientists, engineers. I wasn't quite expecting all this when I signed up. Love 'em all.