It absolutely is. Obviously there are wrong ways to react to racial abuse... being a victim of it doesn’t give you immunity to do whatever the feck you want.
Is it tone deaf to say being violent is not a good way to respond to racial abuse?
No it wouldn't be. Obviously if Kean had jumped into the stands, kung fu kicked some of those fans and then stabbed one of them, nobody would be saying that is a normal reaction.
When people are saying it is tone deaf to tell people how they can react to racism (and in this case, Kean barely even bloody reacted. I had to really double check I wasn't missing something because he literally stood there) when they have no idea of what it feels like.
And the thing is, even though this wasn't a reaction, this will not be the first time Kean has experienced racism, just as whenever one of us reacts to a racist incident, it isn't the first time it is happening to us. It is an accumulation of incidents. It doesn't have to be somebody saying horrible things or making monkey noises at me or Kean or Adisa or whoever. There are so many of these little incidents which just add up. Most of the time you don't respond and just try to get on with your day. Unfortunately, sometimes it all gets a bit much.
So it can get a bit frustrating when somebody who has never experienced racism in the same way (and in your case, has equated racism in the Serie A thread with any other type of abuse) tells someone or has a strong opinion on how they should respond to a racist incident. Especially when that response, again, was so mild.
I've said this before on this site about other contexts but I wish sometimes people would try to empathise with others and think about how and why they're feeling the way they do. I think it used it for transgender issues in the past but it works pretty well here.
Literally every single black person in this thread and I'm sure most in your circles in real life as well will be reacting to this in the same way. Most of the black people who've reacted in the media have reacted in the same way.
Now, and don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you can never comment on what people of other races do or say. But if a group of people is responding in a certain way to something, do you think that it may be worth listening to what they are saying and how they feel? That perhaps we're not all hysterical and there is a reason that in this thread, you have Africans, black Brits, African Americans and I think one person from the Caribbean, all with wholly different upbringings....saying roughly the same thing?