Class of ego at Madrid and him stopping Eva Carneiro giving free blowjobs to everyone made him lose the dressing room. None of those situation exist at Spurs.
It is not rocket science. Two main factors in Mourinho's methods are
- Provoke the players (in private or public), hoping to see a response and fight to prove him wrong, thus getting the best out of the player.
- Siege mentality. Create an atmosphere where the players need to think that the PL authorities are against them, media is against them, rival fans are against them, etc etc. This he hopes will make the players play much beyond their abilities to prove everyone wrong.
After a time (2-3 seasons usually), this makes players tired, fed up and ultimately revolting against him. And then the meltdown starts.
None of the situations ever exist at the club initially, but it comes about in few seasons.