Tbh I think people are really exaggering how "commanding" he is. Not saying he isn't, I just don't think we've seen much of it at United yet.
That being said, I mentioned in the other thread yesterday, when he claimed that cross on the 93rd minute I cheered it like a goal. I don't think it's any exaggeration to say that De Gea 100% does not come for that. It was nothing special from Henderson, but we're just so used to De Gea leaving that to the defenders, and unfortunately we're very used to seeing the ball fly into the net at point blank range.
Tbh I think criticism of Ole is over the top (not unusual for this place tbf). I personally think Ole sees him as our next #1, but he's being careful. I thought Henderson would strut back to United this season with his dick out following his excellent season last season, but actually the reality was he seemed really really nervous on his first couple of appearances. As a result, I just think Ole is being careful in making sure he doesn't throw him in and destroy his confidence (like he'd have seen first hand as a player when we were trying to replace Schmeichel)
Yes, some excellent points there, and Ole will always get slated whatever he does, because he's not classed as a top coach/manager, but he's the one having to make the difficult decisions, and manage the players, injuries and integrating the academy lads, not some keyboard warrior, who can say whatever they want, pick whatever team they want, and never be wrong.
I think the 'commanding' bit is possibly a bit overused, as you say, but we are seeing a keeper who regards the penalty area as his domain, and with him getting more matches, especially in the Prem, then we may see a keeper who is more akin to Schmeichel, and ordering his defenders around, mind you, it will take sometime before he starts doing that I believe, but there are signs.
All in all, I'm more confident with Henderson (and Bailly) in the team than not.