Completely agree with every word of this.
One of my best friends is a girl that I met on my very first day of university. We have a mutual friend that we met on our course. They were quite good friends in the second and third year, but then suddenly drifted apart in the fourth year. I lived with my best friend and a few other people and on one of my last nights there in our fourth year (our last year), she confided to me and two other friends that (after a night out with a big group of friends in the third year of uni, so the year previously), she woke up in the middle of the night to find our mutual friend on top of her. If you had ever had the chance to meet my friend, you'd know that she's the type to completely speak her mind and will never back down in an argument, but in this instance she completely and utterly froze out of fear. She was 100% clear that she didn't initiate anything and has no recollection at all of how it ended up like this and that she didn't want this. Her last memory is going to sleep at a different friend's house after a party, but she woke up to find him assaulting her. She never spoke to him again after that night. She never went to the police either, despite those of us in the know giving her support. She never even used the term "rape", possibly because she didn't want to be seen as "weak", as she was in a way a leader-type of character in the group.
He was a "clean cut" sort of character that could charm any room he walked into. Handsome, meek-looking, innocent in appearance. You'd never suspect it. I would never suspect it and I felt like I had completely let her down.
For reasons unknown to me and my circle of friends, the mutual "friend" committed suicide last May.
The stats are there, but they do not take into account unreported assaults, which happen far, far more than any of us think. You may "think" you know what your male friends are like, even the not-so-close ones, but nobody ever really knows the full extent of things. You just don't know. It's not the same four or five people committing all of these assaults...