Not sure you're right there tbh.
(Not about Terry - that's spot on....)
Andy Cole, Joe Cole, Cheryl Cole - or Fred Cole from down the road - they're just people, and if Fred Cole pointedly ignores someone, he gets disliked for it. Andrew Cole could be quite ignorant when it came to fans, so he earned himself a reputation for not being the most likeable of people. Therefore, when he left United, it was easier to view it is a kick in the teeth to the club than it would have been had he been a fans man.
Unfair maybe, but hardly surprising.
Yes Livvie, it is unfair. Not least because you've created this "reputation" based on your, and a few people you knows opinions. Essentially, second hand knowledge. You don't know him from Adam. He's actually signed an autograph for me, I've still got it, at the City Ground in 97. He seemed like a nice bloke. He's also quite liked on the terraces when I've spoken to people. His song was sung on Sunday for example... I have, as it happens, heard other people say he was a moody git. But it's also irrelent because, d'you know what? You don't know him! You've never spent any time with him and he could for all you know be a fantastically warm and welcoming person who was going through a rough time when you saw him...But like most people, you're making judgements on someone you don't know. Which is stupid...In all walks of life, whether it be about Fred Cole, Joe Cole or Cashley Cole...
But then again I don't actually expect anything from players, nor do I really care. I'm not the kind of person who stalks them for autographs in the first place. I also don't care that much how deeply they love the club because I realise they aren't me and they owe me nothing beyond playing well...and if anything, I owe them for that.
So people have a tendency to expect the same courtesy from a footballer that they would expect from anyone else.
They don't though. They expect more, and take it twice as hard if they're let down and then grumble like spoiled children.
And I would guess that most United fans would put United before England, so if you're talking about the man's attitude, or the man's loyalty, I'd guess that a lot of fans have put themselves in shoes, and would have behaved differently all round.
What? Who gives a crap if
most fans would or wouldn't?...We aren't playing an averages game here. What most fans would do is completely irrelevant. Most people liked Avatar. I didn't. I should probably move my feelings in line to suit the majority should I?...This is error number one with the player/fan relationship. Players owe fans nothing in reality, and yet every individual fan thinks they do for some baffling reason. He's given you more than you've given him. Why the feck should he think and act and respect all the same things you do?...How in anyway should that be expected, or even be remotely fair? It's his life, not yours.
He didn't feel like most fans at that stage of his career, and several players in his position wouldn't either...in fact I wouldn't at that stage. If it was my last chance to play in a WC and I'd won everything there was to win...I'd move too actually. But that's irrelevant. What MOST people would do has no bearing on what Andy Cole
should do...and they aren't putting themselves in his shoes, they have no idea what it's like to be Andy Cole because they aren't Andy Cole. Do you get pestered day in day out? On the street? When you're in a bad mood? Recognised? Criticised in the press? Sometimes getting abuse from people? No..you have no idea what it's like for that to happen, so you aren't putting yourself in his shoes AT ALL...again, you're putting yourself in your shoes, and imagining what you'd like to think you'd do if people came up asking for autographs all the time..and imagining you'd be little miss sunshine all the time...but you actually have no idea at all...
Assuming they do know because they support United and would like to be a player is bollocks....That's exactly my point. You're still in your shoes, just imagining yourself in his life....and most specifically and prominently, the good bits of his life.
Interestingly, David Beckham has been slagged off unmercifully on here for leaving the club, even though there's dispute over whether or not he actually wanted to go. He's never said a bad word about us either, but he's had far worse said about him than Andy Cole has.
Which is completely off topic I know,
So, what? You're trying to re-dress the balance?