I knew the moment I engaged with you, it would always be the case of agreeing to disagree. Very hard to change peoples thinking, and in your case I see it being no different.
I for one though, am open to changing my mind, just as how I changed my mind when Jose came on board.
What I do agree with you is that many of us couldn't stand Jose's antics when he was at Chelsea, but at the same time still acknowledged he was good at mind games. Now that he is our manager, its kind of the case of he is no longer just a (for lack of a better word) prick but "now his our prick" argument. Whether you like what he says or not, will always be a very personal thing, but at least be open to acknowledge that he is well in his right to responded to De Boers comment that was downright hurtful to say, regardless of the context.
Also, for you to just blatantly say that Fergie didn't do it, or when he did, he did it with class is just lame imo, as many on here have already shown you statements of what you would term "classless" jibes at pundits, managers etc if it was Jose saying the exact same words. So why not admit that maybe they are right and give Jose some benefit of the doubt.
IF he were to do something that is definitely inexcusable as a "Manchester United Manager", like say, poke another manager in the eye, I'm right with you in saying his classless, but for me, so far, he deserves the self created award of "best behaved manager in the EPL" especially considering his history of being a known "prick" as many though of him when at Chelsea.