English schools confuse me. Public schools are the posh ones, right? What are private schools?Follows some of the comments in the Sarah Everett thread. This is definitely a problem, and I would expect that 80-90%+ of women of my generation have similar stories to those on the website.
The website/ initial reports seem to be focused on the issues in private schools in particular. I've no idea if it's even worse in those environments but this is an issue the whole of the country needs to address.
You know, someone explained it to me once.English schools confuse me. Public schools are the posh ones, right? What are private schools?
You can sum it up like this: state schools are for normals, and private and public are for the rich.You know, someone explained it to me once.
It made so little sense that I forgot again. I just know that when talking about the UK, public schools are private schools, and private schools are presumably also private schools. And then state schools are public but not private. You know.
I remember it being explained to me too. I think the logic was that “public” schools were owned by members of the public i.e. not state ownedYou know, someone explained it to me once.
It made so little sense that I forgot again. I just know that when talking about the UK, public schools are private schools, and private schools are presumably also private schools. And then state schools are public but not private. You know.
I looked at wikipedia and apparently the name 'public' comes from not being restricted to a certain locality, denomination, or paternal trade/profession. As in, you can go to Eton even if you're not from Berkshire and your father isn't a, I don't know, lawyer.I remember it being explained to me too. I think the logic was that “public” schools were owned by members of the public i.e. not state owned
Where the whole school had to share 1 TV and 1 Projector.Public and Private schools are pretty much the same thing, neither are owned by the state.
The big difference is that Public schools tend to have been founded a longer time ago, private schools are a little bit more modern. Thus, public schools have more fame and history and are therefore harder to get into.
State schools are what us normies go too, state owned, rough round the edges etc.
"I stayed in a hotel room with a friend as i couldn’t go home because it was too late. he was 21, i was 17. He pushed the beds together after i had passed out and i woke up in the middle of the night to him having sex with me. I woke up in so much pain but i froze and pretended to be asleep as i was too scared as to what would happen if i retaliated. He drove me home the next day and blocked me. He gave me an std."
fecking hellReading through a couple of the stories and they've disgusted me.
Disclaimer of being posh wanker - I went to a public school and looking back on it, it was horrific. Our year wasn't quite as bad as the years that came before us, but there were still some quite horrible stuff said. I mean an ex-best friend of mine raped one of mine and his best friends a few years after we all left school. He never quite lost the damaging perception of girls and as a group we're horrified that we never called him out in time. But basically you put a bunch of arrogant, overconfident, privileged arseholes in a school together and mix that with a society that oversexualises/dehumanises women and you just get about 700 boys the majority of whom all see women as 'conquests'. I remember being with him the night he did it and him calling me out for 'being too respectful of women' (I had said that I no longer enjoyed hitting on women in bars and clubs because I am likely just another in a long list of men who won't let them just enjoy their night) and how he 'just really wanted to feck' that night. It seemed like the innocuous statements of an overly horny boy, when in reality it was emblematic of a person who grew up in a system that looked at women in a certain way and he never managed to shed that perception. I think most men who read these stories, will be shocked but most will also remember that they looked at women differently when they were younger. However, a lot grew out of that. Although you look at the reaction to Sarah Everard and not enough men did grow out of that.Weirdly at my school it was mostly the girls leading this sort of thing (slapping arses etc). Or at least it was within the groups I knew. There was the usual bra twanging from the guys in response though, which obviously isn't great. What they're saying in this (passing round nude pictures and the like) sounds like a level above that, and could definitely see it being worse in private/boarding schools.
I agree. Don't think the issue is particular for England or private/public schools.School is and will always be shit. Teenagers are cnuts.
Agreed and I think one of the problems here is that kids don't often know the difference between right and wrong.School is and will always be shit. Teenagers are cnuts.
I've never understood why they're called public schools either. I just call them 'private' (paid-for) or 'state'. This website started with stories of abuse happening at private (posh) schools, mostly in London.English schools confuse me. Public schools are the posh ones, right? What are private schools?
Good point. I have a friend who was raped (or attempted?) at university but this took place outside of campus, at her privately rented house.One thing I did notice, however, was that a lot of the stories relate to experiences outside of school. Although by no means looking to dispel these experiences, when the headline focuses on "rape culture in UK schools" then includes stories from a variety of settings, does it kind of lose focus?
Schools should absolutely have support networks in place for these horrific experiences/create a space where people can discuss their experiences safely, as well as do more to draw attention to/prevent these incidents from occurring. But I'm not sure if I'd go as far as to say all these cases are examples of "rape culture in school", more sadly rape culture in wider society.
Does it indicate that schools actually probably do a better job at keeping kids in line than their parents? I've often wondered if teachers get unnecessary criticism and parents far too often don't get criticised enough. Only today for example I saw a a young mother smoking around her kid - it just made my blood boil. Parents need to take responsibility in making sure their kids have good morals and understand how to treat other people in the right way and far too often that doesn't happen.These are really sickeningly sad stories which really highlight how we need to be more determined and open in our attempts to stop this in our society.
One thing I did notice, however, was that a lot of the stories relate to experiences outside of school. Although by no means looking to dispel these experiences, when the headline focuses on "rape culture in UK schools" then includes stories from a variety of settings, does it kind of lose focus?
Schools should absolutely have support networks in place for these horrific experiences/create a space where people can discuss their experiences safely, as well as do more to draw attention to/prevent these incidents from occurring. But I'm not sure if I'd go as far as to say all these cases are examples of "rape culture in school", more sadly rape culture in wider society.
I think they do know between right and wrong. They just don't care.Agreed and I think one of the problems here is that kids don't really know the difference between right and wrong. A lot of teenage years are by definition formative and it's only by looking back that we can see where we went wrong. Everything in the teenage years feels like an amorphous blob of learning, fecking up, and then trying not to feck up later in life in the same way. I hate to say it too as I don't want to normalise any of this abhorrent culture.
I would tend to agree with this. I think some people severely underestimate kids and teenagers ability to know the difference between right and wrong. It doesn't mean they can't change, but bullies in school absolutely know what they are doing and are very manipulative.I think they do know between right and wrong. They just don't care.
The real reason is a lack of discipline both by parents and the law, so they have no reason to care. I think people underestimate their intelligence, which, unfortunately, they use to attack people. They know they are pretty much untouchable with protection from the law. And they are very well aware that it gets dismissed as being 'young and stupid'. They know teachers can't do anything to them. I mean what does sending someone out of the classroom actually do? Nothing. They just behaved the same way afterwards.
Also, they are very well aware that if someone does discipline them they can just accuse them of abuse and be considered the victim. These kinds of threats were used openly by other students in the school I went to. The people in my school were incredibly sly, and I would think a teacher would have been in a very difficult position with them, to be fair. They would have been horrible to teach. I think people underestimate just how dangerous they can be. They are far more aware of what they are doing than people give them credit for.
The only story I heard was one girl getting attacked by other girls in the toilet, which could have been like this. But there was horrendous bullying in my school, which was mostly psychological. One girl had a horrible time and eventually left after a couple of years: boys and girls would hound her every single day, criticising her appearance whilst they gathered around her at lunch. I regret not standing up for her, but couldn't work the nerve up when hundreds in the school used to do it. One time I did try to talk to her, but I think she thought I was just someone else coming to bully her.
I agree. School is never a nice place, unless you conform and become a part of some more popular group of kids, which removes the chance of being singled out and bullied.I would tend to agree with this. I think some people severely underestimate kids and teenagers ability to know the difference between right and wrong. It doesn't mean they can't change, but bullies in school absolutely know what they are doing and are very manipulative.
Yeah I think you're right.I think they do know between right and wrong. They just don't care.
The real reason is a lack of discipline both by parents and the law, so they have no reason to care. I think people underestimate their intelligence, which, unfortunately, they use to attack people. They know they are pretty much untouchable with protection from the law. And they are very well aware that it gets dismissed as being 'young and stupid'. They know teachers can't do anything to them. I mean what does sending someone out of the classroom actually do? Nothing. They just behaved the same way afterwards.
Also, they are very well aware that if someone does discipline them they can just accuse them of abuse and be considered the victim. These kinds of threats were used openly by other students in the school I went to. The people in my school were incredibly sly, and I would think a teacher would have been in a very difficult position with them, to be fair. They would have been horrible to teach. I think people underestimate just how dangerous they can be. They are far more aware of what they are doing than people give them credit for.
The only story I heard was one girl getting attacked by other girls in the toilet, which could have been like this. But there was horrendous bullying in my school, which was mostly psychological. One girl had a horrible time and eventually left after a couple of years: boys and girls would hound her every single day, criticising her appearance whilst they gathered around her at lunch. I regret not standing up for her, but couldn't work the nerve up when hundreds in the school used to do it. One time I did try to talk to her, but I think she thought I was just someone else coming to bully her.
I don't mean to excuse them, but I think the main problem is that young people and kids especially are very self-centred in their thinking. They're still trying to understand themselves (especially when all the hormonal shit really starts) and a lot of the time they're simply not even thinking about how their words and actions are effecting others. Or when they do think about it, they lack the broader understanding how much severe the consequences of their actions can actually be.I would tend to agree with this. I think some people severely underestimate kids and teenagers ability to know the difference between right and wrong. It doesn't mean they can't change, but bullies in school absolutely know what they are doing and are very manipulative.
Well yeah, but I guess it also depends on the age and severity of offense. If we are talking rape i'm not really sure I'd be able to excuse it with hormones and stuff although I know that wasn't what you were saying, but it's a topic of the thread.I don't mean to excuse them, but I think the main problem is that young people and kids especially are very self-centred in their thinking. They're still trying to understand themselves (especially when all the hormonal shit really starts) and a lot of the time they're simply not even thinking about how their words and actions are effecting others. Or when they do think about it, they lack the broader understanding how much severe the consequences of their actions can actually be.
Then of course there are a few who are just unmitigated cnuts and always will be. But I think those are 'relatively' rare. Maybe one or two at most in my own school year that I can remember.
The issue with expelling kids (and personally I hate that this is the case) is that for every occasion a kid is expelled from one school there has to be another school willing to take them in. Many LEAs are frankly full and can't accept movement from one school to another.I think if people realised how hard it is to have kids expelled from schools now they’d have a fit.
In my friends kids school - a kid entered the classroom / started battering a girl including kids to the head / didn’t get expelled as it was her final year and they didn’t want to lessen her exam scores.
It’s crazy that schools can’t expel easily for incidents like that.
Public schools are for the posh as you say and are usually what are called boarding schools, private schools are schools where parents pay fees for their children to go there, but they don't usually board (the sort of school rich footballers will send their kids to). State schools are for the rest of us.English schools confuse me. Public schools are the posh ones, right? What are private schools?
As a former teacher, do you think a move back to something like a modern version of approved schools would help for the out of control kids?The issue with expelling kids (and personally I hate that this is the case) is that for every occasion a kid is expelled from one school there has to be another school willing to take them in. Many LEAs are frankly full and can't accept movement from one school to another.
I my time working at a secondary school the number of cases where a kid should blatantly have been expelled but wasn't was staggering. I remember a case where a kid accused a teacher of hitting her, except she said it happened in a classroom where we always have CCTV so was proven to be a lie, barely even punished for it as it was the end of a term and decided it was best to 'have a fresh start in the new term'
Private/Independent = middle classEnglish schools confuse me. Public schools are the posh ones, right? What are private schools?
I don’t know what the answer is but what I do know is that the surety system doesn’t work:As a former teacher, do you think a move back to something like a modern version of approved schools would help for the out of control kids?