I don’t mind the friendliness so much. What grates is instead of a conversation for problem solving, they instead have a telepathic conversation where each member of the crew vocalises part of the problem solving in one continuous sentence for the audience. And I have said from pretty early on that it’s not really ST, just a sci-fi show set in the ST universe and even my wife gets that now having spent time watching SNW with me.
I personally mind it because it's also largely connected to the bolded part, which I agree with. I don't recall the episode, but the situation was pretty bad, Picard lost his cool and called Worf a coward, on which Worf said he should kill him where he stands for saying that. now imagine Michael losing control that way and someone from the crew saying that to her.
in general, there's no emotional outbursts among the crew. it's all so good and perfect because they never really stuck, they just solve everything telepathically in a second which is why these "race against the clock" scenes lost all the strength. Michael herself actually is perfect in a way, while Booker, Stamets, the doctor, Lilly and others are just "weak". they were made to be likeable, calm and friendly, but ultimately - weak.
one of the things that made DS9 special, to me at least, is that it made sense for certain staff members not to like other staff members at all. so those happy reunions, feelings and hugs at the end of each episode and Michael crying or giving speech every once in a while aren't really my cup of tea.
anyway, I finished the second episode and the first thing the came on my mind is another TNG episode, The Arsenal of Freedom. I'm still not feeling anything unfortunately, despite Michael being in tears once again during the mission. it shouldn't be possible, but Discovery and Prodigy are actually targeting the same audience now.