RussellWilson
2020 NFC Fantasy League winner
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I made the comment and none of what you've said addresses the point of how wanting certain outcomes for your children makes you discriminatory?I struggle to wrap my head around the smartarse “wanting your kids to be heterosexual is now discriminatory, eh?” argument that has reared its head several times in this thread — you would ideally want any kid(s) that you have (or end up having) to be comfortable with themselves, in body and mind, and find love/contentment with the right people for them (unless they're aromantic and/or asexual and have little interest in doing so, which would be totally cool as well). Like, whatever happened to being their biggest ally and genuinely happy for them as they truly are on an inherent level so they don't have to put up a front and wear invisible masks, instead of secretly wishing they were a wee bit different so things could be supposedly easier on the societal front?
You would want to be neutral on the whole homosexual/heterosexual spectral divide because both are valid expressions of sexuality. So what if there's resistance? That can be overcome and leads to progressive change — what an insipid place would the world be if we started cowering at signs or resistance or sporadic societal disapproval from milquetoast dunderheads. As callous as it sounds, reading some of these comments...I really wish the posters don't have non-heterosexual kids because they would unload their value system and creepy manifesto-of-copulation (what if they choose to be child-free in a heterosexual relationship and decide to adopt, not procreate) and indoctrinated biases onto them as a form of passive-aggressive wish fulfillment in subtle (or not-so-subtle) ways instead of empowering their kids with the choice free will — and if things don't go according to the preconceived master plan, potentially damage their identity in an irreparable way from a young age because they're aberrations that don't fit the perfect mold the parents have concocted in their heads. Then we wonder why so many are closeted and never come out, or have crippling self-esteem esteem issues, or are profoundly depressed, or suffer from cognitive dissonance in an existential sense.
Then again, people are capable of change of heart/thought and self-reflection and limitless empathy if they put their mind(s) to it, and maybe they'll be less overbearing/disappointed (even in a passive way) and more actively optimistic/helpful when they're actually in the position of having a homo/trans-sexual kid.
A heterosexual couple wanting the same for their kids isn't really surprising. We're all geared to like what we know.
I gave examples of other things I'd want my kids to be which may or may not happen. If I don't want my child to have a disability, does that make me discriminatory against people with disabilities? Is a person with a disability any less valuable than someone without one, of course not.
I'd also prefer my children held on to my culture, they may marry into another culture and not carry it on. Does that now make me racist because I initially would want them to keep our culture alive?
Everything isn't discrimination because you have preferences.
People get shunned by family for not living up to all sorts of expectations. And some parents support their children through all sorts. Like everything, there isn't a one side fits all.
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