I just asked a question because you seemed to imply that the onus is on black people (or anyone who's being racially abused) to take the high road, after being racially abused. Whereas I'm simply saying anyone's reaction to racism is individual and shouldn't be held against them, even if that reaction is violent.
Nobody is outraged, I don’t think anyone thinks they're better than anyone & at no point did I say education doesn't work - unless you can quote me?
I don't think the "onus" is on them. You are putting words in my mouth. I don't think however it is wrong to put an arm round someone and say to them "next time, try to rise above it", or to point out that provocation will not produce a positive outcome. You are not pitting yourself against them or blaming them or forcing them to take any high road alone, because there is absolutely nothing to stop you being on the same side as them.
I'm not going to start judging someone who reacts to being racially abused as it's not a position I can understand, but I don't find comments like "it's tone death to suggest how black people should respond to being racially abused" particularly helpful. Or suggestions that doing so is "policing" black people, which I think you may have said yourself (I may have missinterpreted as I can't find the post).
What this is doing is making it into a black people problem, by effectively forbidding anyone else to suggest a course of action that might help, or to get involved, or have any opinion at all. This is why you nearly always only see black players, pundits etc. speaking out against racism, because no one else wants to stick their neck out for fear of being ridiculed. It is not a black people problem, it is a society problem, and recognising that will make it go away a lot quicker.
Look at the difference now for example when it comes to gay marriage, homosexuality etc. Compared to only a few decades ago. This was achieved by society changing it's attitude and younger people being educated differently. It wasn't achieved by two men kissing in front of a bunch of homophobes to try and wind them up, even though from the purely moral point of view this would actually be quite funny.
I'm not sure what your pont was. You seemd to be arsily repsonding to my post suggesting I prove I have personally educated or shamed people for racism. This seemed somewhat unecessary and if you weren't suggesting it doesn't work I'm not sure what you were implying unless it was meant to be a presumptious personal dig.