No Love
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Thanks, man. We’ve all been there. We’ve all been guilty of knee jerk reactions, on occasion.Great post and I agree. Particular in player performance and Ole out threads it turns easily into people not listening. Or just going with attacks due to our last poor game. I feel like people just ignore opposite views a lot or attacks the poster at worst. I often get too negative after defeats, but I normally listen to other views and I am open to change my mind. With Ole is has been a rollercoaster and I am not fully sure what I think we should do right now.
You bring an interesting area to prominence that I did not mention in my initial post, and that is the perpetual Ole in/Ole out debate. The problem here, is that people feel obligated to pick a side. Even by the very nature of the presentation of the question: in or out. Of course, the third option is often neglected, despite being the most readily available option in most walks of life, and that is to say, ‘I don’t know’. There’s a huge misconception in society at the moment that suggests it’s unacceptable to admit you don’t know the answer to something. Naturally, it finds its way here, too. It’s okay to admit that you don’t know if Ole should stay or go, and frankly, if you aren’t privy to all of the information/circumstances or haven’t taken the necessary steps to form an educated opinion, then it’s likely the most apt answer to give. Again, people feel obligated to give an answer one way or another and then feel they’ve nailed their colours to the mast and have to live by it. That becomes their hill to die on. Typically, this process ends in the kind divisive and abrasive posts I touched on previously. Another fine example of this is the Pogba thread, but that’s another story for another time.
I guess my point is that it’s okay to be unsure. There’s an excellent word that I enjoy: liminal. I wish more people would use this word, especially around these parts. I think if people kept this word in mind when posting, it would prevent them matter of factly staying an opinion that leans heavily towards one polar, and subsequently acting outraged when people disagree.
Anyway, that’s enough of me on my soapbox. I’m in danger of hijacking the thread with these lengthy posts!