And I find that strange because I would assume that if you ask a Zulu without leading to a black or white identification he would either answer Zulu or name the family of language that he speaks which is also an important differentiator in Africa. Africans will understand the following map while others should remember that it is an easy way to understand how Africans and their culture are divided, scholars know that but sometimes they simply don't care.
Yes you are right. Most times we are referred to by our particular sub set of color. However the cultural differentiator can be used a in derogatory way, so it ultimately depends on the context and intention of the persons in dialogue.
For example, when we have to give demographics of a church or a community, we don't always specify it based on the different black groups, or colored groups or white groups, but yes when it's one on one, we have to specify.
Another example is now the xenophobic use of the in our countries "foreign" blacks.
So when hiring a domestic, probably if you are not black, but are a colored or white, you wouldn't have a preference of whether they are Xhosa or Zulu etc, it would be local or foreign for example.
Argh, it's hard. Because I have to raise my kids in such a world and it terrible, I don't want them to see or say my "black friend" or "white friend".
But that's so normal in our society.
The other day my heart nearly broke cause my son, who is 3 said something I have no idea where he learnt.
During this pandemic and lockdown and stuff, we had limited time to walk out, and take them for our walks, but when we do, there were of course other people also walking.
We live in a more predominately white area, but also quite mixed as well.
So my sonx out of the blue said to, "why do all the white people wear masks"
It was the first time I heard him define someone's color and not just acknowledge them as "why do all these people wear masks"
It's a tough country to live in and as parents we have to be deliberate in teaching out children to see people for people and not color.