No worries, things got heated and I haven't exactly acted civilised, and I apologise for that. We know what we disagree on, and there's no point in us going over it anymore.
And, for what it's worth, I'm aware of the issues facing the trans community, and I'm fully behind you there. I'm aware of the damage trap and sissy fetishism has done to the perception of transwomen, how laws meant to protect you have been abused by weirdos, resulting in backlash against trans rights. Natalie Wynn talked about (and I believe you touched upon it as well) how cis people, attempting to be accommodating and inclusive, start sharing pronouns when she is the only trans person present (because they don't understand that there's a difference between binary and non-binary transgender), making it feel like her identity isn't valid. I can only try to imagine how hard that must be.
You're entirely correct, of course. I'd say that I've been feeling under the weather and been in a shit mood, but that's just all the more reason not to go on the internet and act like a petty dick.
I'd love to have an intelligent conversation about non binary identities, as a transsexual (urgh that term is as old fashioned as transvestite, crossdresser etc) I feel an overwhelming sense to have an identity, I think there's a conflict then with non binary individuals who don't want to conform to any or many identities. The two simply aren't compatible or comparable and it's a growing source of discourse within the trans community. Telling a "transsexual" that their natural instinct is just a social construct is hugely damaging, could you imagine telling a gay person that they're only gay because society made them that way?
Even Mermaids admit that "gender" is just another word for "personality" in their tweet below, imagine 8 billion toilets! Or an 8 billion strong pride parade - wouldn't that defeat the object? How about if every crime ever was classed as a "hate crime" because everyone falls under the transgender umbrella? Again, doesn't that defeat the purpose of having a definition for a hate crime?
I do think that transgender kids who need to find their sense of identity in order to seek medical intervention will suffer greatly from the confused definitions, waiting lists are already crazily stupid, when you're told there's an 8 billion long waiting list it becomes self defeating. As someone who has been through that process understanding my identity and getting medical intervention saved my life. Non binary is just as much, if not more, of a social construct as the binary genders. From a very young age Children will know the difference between boys and girls and some will feel an affinity with the opposite. They will not feel like a demi boy polymorphic lesbian.
Also, freedom of self expression has always been there, look at the 80s, this was then eradicated by the lad mag 90s. But it was there and people didn't have a need to label it. In fact, where do goths fit in with all of this? A culture that fits so perfectly into the non binary spectrum yet don't feel the need to use specific pronouns yet are just as valid.
In fact, suicide rates amongst men are the highest of any gender, maybe redefining what it means to be male and cutting out the macho bullshit may start to address this - Why not just stretch the binaries of what it means to be male/female rather than inventing new genders. There's nothing wrong with men wearing makeup, there's nothing wrong with tom boys and girls, new terms will replace the old colloquial ones which had negative connotations and I believe that's what has happened with transgender, a word everyone is fighting for.
Truly am interested in hearing your side without transplaining, I think we're beyond that as a discussion now.
Hope you're feeling less under the weather soon too.
Lost your whole argument there, anyone dressed up as anything isn't trans or a subset and neither is S&M. Sorry but you've just shown how ignorant you are 
