There is absolutely no evidence to support this assumption - only a British citizen believing that because their politicians are consistently sneaky and underhanded, then so to will be the politicians of the other EU members.
As for your argument about the Benn Act scuttling any chance of negotiations, you are refusing to accept what is and had always been clear. While Britain may be playing chicken with the EU, the EU are not and have been honest and explicit in what they will and won't accept.
The EU would obviously prefer Britain doesn't leave or that it leaves with a deal, but not to the extent that they will compromise on any of the four pillars or on the border in Ireland. Their obligation to the remaining members outweighs any obligation to Britain - there isn't some secret backdown the EU are keeping until the last moment because a no deal brexit while damaging, is less damaging to the Union than capitulating to the demands of a departing bully.
Theresa May didn't negotiate a bad deal, she negotiated the best deal possible from a shaky position. Johnson nor nobody else is going to negotiate a better one. May at least had the benefit of negotiating from a position of some small integrity - the actions of Boris, Cummings, Mogg and co. over the last few weeks and months have served only to weaken the negotiating position, not strengthen it.
Any argument that Britain can be trusted to work on future solutions for say, the border issue, is now laughable. The image of a trustworthy Britain who will thrive in negotiating trade deals after a no deal brexit disappeared when Boris attempted and failed his parliamentary coup.
You talk of seeing an ounce of compromise from Remainers but where is this compromise on the Leavers side?
From the beginning of this process, all I have seen from Leavers is "what we need", "what we deserve", "what's not fair on us". What about Britain's obligations and responsibilities? Your history of foreign policy means you have obligations outside your own shores - the history of British occupation of Ireland means you cannot just ignore your responsibilities in Northern Ireland and the actions of your politicians over the last 5 years means vague and vapid promises of a future solution cannot reasonably be trusted.
You are all afraid of a backstop which will hold you into obligations that you yourselves signed up to, but give not two shits about the turmoil and instability your actions will result in for a region that your country is responsible for destabilising in the first place.